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Planning your Wedding
Use this step-by-step 12-month wedding planner as your blueprint for the big event. For purpose of practicality, we arranged a December wedding.
- The commitment phobe finally proposed. Quick, get a wedding planner or a date book and let the strategizing design
- Throw an engagement party to show off the diamond ring and make your friends go insane with jealousy.
- Talk to both sets of parents about the theme of your wedding as well as the budget.
- Look through bridal magazines to get an idea for your dress (never mind that you already picked the design when you were 12) and then start shopping for a good bridal boutique.
- Book location for the wedding reception.
- Pay a visit to your local parish to book the church, or temple, or synagogue, if it's going to be a religious ceremony
- Register your wedding gifts at the various department stories.
- You and your fiancť should make your guest list.
- Discuss honeymoon destination, choose it and book it now, as December is a popular season for traveling.
- Finalize the guest list, because you'll need to put a deposit for the location of your reception.
- Make a list of how many out-of-town guests you'll be expecting. Select a friend to be put in charge of them. Get her to plan appropriate activities for them (read: no bar-hopping for the church-going crowd).
- Discuss with your fiancť what type of home the both of you want. The keys from HDB will soon be in your possession - so start planning.
- Source for a reputable "best in Singapore" contractor.
- Make a firm decision about your dress design and get the boutique to start stitching.
- Since your dress us going to have a neckline that plunges to your pierced belly button, start looking for appropriate accessories
- Renovation of your home begins.
- Book your photographer, videographer, cinematographer, best boy, grip, director ... hey, whatever makes you happy, baby.
- Select the florist and make sure your hand bouquet is not a miniature of the rainforest. Florists tend to get carried away.
- Check on the work-in -progress at your new home because you don't want your contractor to pull a Phua Chu Kang on you.
- Horrors! You gained weight because the bingeing got bigger as your wedding to-do list got longer. Time to start some serious exercising with a personal trainer.
- This is also the start of your healthy eating programme. That means grazing on fruits and vegetables from now on.
- Deposits for everything should be made and all contracts signed. This is it: there's no turning back and this is not the time to change your mind and cancel the wedding.
- Renovation is finally completed. Buy all the necessary furniture and drapes for the new home.
- Progressively move into your new love nest now. Don't wait until later when you'll be busy with all the last minute planning for your wedding.
- Order the wedding cake.
- Reserve the honeymoon suite at a hotel if your wedding reception is held at a restaurant or elsewhere.
- Select gifts for all the attendants such as bridesmaids, groom, flower girls, etc.
- Organize the wedding car rental plus other car hire services for your parents, his parents and the witnesses.
- Finalize guest list, as cards have to be printed next week.
- Go for your first dress fitting. If it doesn't fit, spend the evening pounding the treadmill.
- Choose appropriate music for the church. If you can't tell the difference between a wedding march and a requiem, then seek the help of the church organist. Better to let him choose the music for you.
- Send out all wedding invitations. Make sure great-grand aunt Nell in the retirement home gets one too. It'll make her day even if she can't attend.
- Go for your second dress fitting. You can almost zip it all the way up? An evening of Tae Bo for you.
- Go for a relaxing aromatherapy massage.
- Meet with your hairdresser and decide on the right hairstyle for you and your bridesmaid.
- Get the makeup artist to try a few looks on you, as you don't want to end up looking like the Bride of Frankenstein.
- Final dress fitting for you and your attendants. The dress fits! Yippee!
- See your beautician and get a facial.
- Get marriage license from the Register of Marriages.
- Work out the seating arrangement for the sit-down wedding dinner, as you don't want feuding family members seated next to each other.
- Pick up wedding rings.
- Check into a spa for a full day of body treatment.
- Call the florist and go through the checklist with her like the church, car decorations, centerpieces for the dinner table and corsages for the wedding party.
- Your best gal pals plan a hen party for you.
- Drop by the hotel to check if they have left out anything. make sure the wedding cake is indeed fruitcake and not chocolate.
- Remind all involved to attend the wedding rehearsal tonight.
- Mission accomplished. You're getting married in two days' time. Get lots of rest and relaxation.
got this guide off female brides online
This is a short intro on the various bridal designers in Singapore
How long to prepare for a wedding?
Really curious to know how long does it takes to prepare for a wedding and how much roughly it cost? Maybe details of how u plan it and also what had you done will be good. TIA.
No gal, i'm just curious and I thought it will be good to share.
I'm also rather interested in this topic.
Anyone can throw some light on this?
Darling it would be great if you could get online or by one of the brideís magazines they usually have this guide of i think up to 18 mths before what to do. You donít plan whole solid 18 or 12 mth or what ever. But there are things to be done strategically at those strategic timing.
Hotels $380+++/table non-hotel to $699 - 1099 onwards +++/table sometimes beer is extra at $680 nett 30 litre & wine corkage is at $20nett/bottle 1st 10 bottles for mine was free but i upped the free to 20 bottles by negotiation. Flower decorations should be by the hotel included in the package, they let me pick the designs & talk to the florist also - any extras I need to pay (so i just asked for standard package & free some corsages)
For starters if you want a wedding dinner banquet & want to book the slot early, its up to 1-1.5 yrs in advance you have to book - so you must already have your dates ready quite early - & if your parents want to have the date picked make sure its agreeable by all & if its an auspicious date - your dinner venues might also be a HOT date - remember you also need $3-5K deposit once you have decided on the hotel & want to secure the place. Most hotels let you secure the dates before hand & another couple wants the date then they will call you up to ask if you want - then if you want this hotel & date you booked for - you will need to make a deposit soon within 1-2 weeks as the other couple will be pushing for the date as well. As you are on the top of the list the hotel will push you to commit as well - which is only fair in care you "shopped around" donít want their booking later & they also lose other potential couples who want the same date.
For swisstotel Stamford & raffles the plaza they work this way - they will give you up to 1 mth or so to decide after your detailed meeting up with them to negotiate, to make payment to secure the deal - else once this date lapses - your "booking" is gone, they are free to give the date to another couple.
Also read up on ROM procedures- if you want an outside the registry ROM you have to call up & book your justice of peace or religious leader or Minister 1st & some paper work needs to be done. On day today you sign up online (u need 2 witnesses' NRIC copy also as details from all 4 of your NRIC is required to fill in the online ROM registration & also preferably a credit card to make payment online - be prepared to print the accepted online documents also either by really hard copy print out or a PDF copy.
Timing of ROM register today - u will get a date to go to the registry just the 2 of you with some documents they will state to bring along in person. Then 3 weeks from the online registration date (correct me if i am wrong) then you can rom so you must count 21 days from say today then is the 1st day you can ROM & they give you - please check i cannot remember now 3-6 mths from this 1st day u must ROM within this date or the registration will be cancelled. & You have to do all over again.
Please take note if you last min - what ever it is - you can only ROM 3 weeks from the date you register online.
Then if you want to lose weight - this will start immediately actually.
Saving for this & that -also immediately.
$2K for a JB salon (tpt & time spent is extras) to $3k for most basic packages with the bridal car & gowns & actual day makeup, excludes actual day photography ($1.2K market rate) & video ($600 market rate $150 for highlights of the day's ceremony to be aired on actual dinner) - find lobangs for discounts early! - Have a 2nd friend who is taking up photography & still gaining experience to be the 2nd back up photographer - we had one such friend- for him we paid him ang pao $50-100 plus all his film & development fees & a treat.
Bridal salon try 6-12 mths before the actual wedding preferably for time for them to custom make incase you donít like any new off the rack, & also time for you to slim down if you need, & also the photo shoot should be about 2-3 mth or more before the wedding as you need to give them 1-2 mths to print & for you to pick & prink or enlarge or even do digital effects - if you plan to spend more on digital effects - give yourself & the graphics more time to design it & for you to review it before you accept the final work. For me my timing was quite rushed. Aug 05 fitting - choose gowns, Sept 2nd fitting- gowns adjusted to my size per 1st fitting, End Oct photo shoot, see & picked photos end Nov, collected my digital effects albums 20th dec -wedding 26th Dec. It was quite a rush as i had to delay my photo shoot 1 mth as my husband had some urgent meeting on the actual planned date in sept 06.
Some even book early so that they can keep going back when new designs of gowns appear in the shops - but note this is an advantage to choose your gowns but - if you are fussy - they might retaliate if you are too much with poor service or poor results.
Can be $60/session to $200/session in a package - try to go Skin to look for how to look for good facial packages. 0% instalments might be a good way to help you save some cash upfront. But could be more expensive so take note. Make friend with one 1st so that you know their service level & products used.
Facials once a mth 6 mths before the wedding is considered ok if you have ok skin - but i rather you concentrate on daily skincare as those can make more difference - so way before your weddings try this & that know what works for you what doesnít - so that you know are this expensive thing is costly but works fro me say hydration & radiance - ok i try now BUT KIV only till 6 mths before wedding then buy & use - donít DONT jump into new skincare - new brands & stuff just before the wedding - & photo shoot - it can be devastating should your skin be sensitive to it- my friend 1 mth before her photo shoot jumped into SKII whitening mask from her usual Kose only skincare & broke out big time - big taboo for brides.
GUO DA LI Chinese proposal ceremony where there is a standard list of things to bring over to the bride's house- its the formal asking for hand in marriage, there is also the dragon & phoenix candles to exchange, sweet stuff with good meanings to exchange & gifts & ang pao can also represent the gifts now in modern times. Importantly ask your parents what to do - some might have particular habits say Cantonese do this way, hokkien do another way - must have consensus also. A good time to confirm such things can also be the trial dinner which is usually about 1 mth before the wedding or earlier - or meet up over casual dinner to discuss earlier if the date chosen for this as well is much earlier - this too can be a picked auspicious date.
sweet stuff could cost about $50 or much less, nice basket - get one from home anyone make it pretty if you donít have one go to the florist to buy one or make a simple pretty one. Ang paos for grandparents - i had to give him 2 more ang paos for this still living grandparents, his parents & one unmarried sister i had to give another ang pao to him & another one for a pair of pants which my mum supposed to buy for him & whoever he comes with the match maker auntie, & he is supposed to give me the same for my family & also a dowry red packet which we took out some &gave back the rest this amts were pre-agreed between me & my husband to avoid any arguments. & Oranges, etc - what ever the groom gives the bride's side take some & give back the balance same for the dowry ang pao & the ang paos for individuals excluded. My gf 's SO asked for this to be excluded - he paid no dowry for her. Smart move.
Invitation list & cards & Tables U must have a rough invitation list up 1st before you discuss with the hotels as you need to book the rough number of tables - adding later is ok but make sure that the hall can accommodate if you feel you grossly under estimated - like a ballroom for 40 max 50 - donít book for 48 & KIV another 5 - its impossible - stick to 50 or get another ballroom or hotel (different hotels have different sized ballrooms - book early to avoid disappointment too) You also need to ask your parents how many tables they seriously need & donít over lap in counting relatives & common friends.
Refresh this last about 2 mths before the wedding & 6 mths before hand you can sms & email & call up friend already & collect home addresses for the physical card to mail out. What i did was let every one 6 mths before hand then collect addresses anytime from now onwards & what i did was call them 1 mth before the wedding again to confirm time date & venues & attendance - those who do not attend i will not send an invite - note some older generation expect a card 1st before they will tell you if they are coming - its some status quo.
Printing of the cards the hotel or you have to liaise yourself depending on your hotel's way - should be discussing layout about 2+ mths before the dinner - Chinese characters to confirm with those who know - if you are as banana as me. & seek parents consent too if possible - i opted for cheaper print on white paper then slot in red cards - they went to collect & rejected all & ended up i had to pay another $60-80 for the reprints - i was quite angry - but then again its my parents in law's face at stake they paid for the extras so i let it rest - we already were very late at contacting the printers - it was not so much a $$ issue but a time delay which pissed me off. Ask them also when you call them to initially discuss - how long they need once you confirm to print - mine was about 3-4 days. This could be extra that the hotel will not bear please take note - printing of cards or extra cards.
Some ask for upfront $X some get say 5-10 tables - meaning bride's parents collect all ang pao from X number of tables & that's theirs. Also the roasted pig - want or not - to bring on Guo Da Li or on actual Chinese customary day, etc. best for the couple to discuss 1st what can the groom afford to prevent black faces on parents meeting discussion days. Sound each side's parents out.
Parents involvement please involve your parents with respect if you love them alot - as some are very hurt as they donít know what's going on even on the day they meet to discuss things - everything is discussed from scratch & because they are not prepared or what - you might need another discussion to finalise things too.
Jie Mei & Brothers book them as early as possible & brief them what they need to do - give ang pao or presents or treat makan as you think deem fit. If you have a church wedding & want the bride's aids in same colour -you might want to budget for them to get them similar dresses or even go with them to choose & foot the bill. I was last min asked to MC & requested to wear a colour i donít have -i was quite annoyed actually - if the couple is not buying it for me - & i am not the bride's maid actually they should have paid for the dress! If you buy or tailor such a dress - then you can skip so big an ang pao or treat.
Clothes for mothers & dads if you are buying off the rack try Great Singapore sales - at those times these $200-400 dresses could be marked 20-50% or more - so save $$. If tailoring please pick cloth & design & visit the tailor at least 2 mths before hand. Also try to balance your MIL & mother's dress - neither one of them should over dress the other preferably -or there will be unhappiness. Rental of such clothes might be available for parents to confirm & ask t=for them to be included in package if u donít intend to rent or make otherwise. Else neighbourhood places can make men suits from $200-250 - 500. Kings men is about $600-1K+, Raffles tailor is entry price i think was $1100. Donít get men suits from your bridal salon as they donít usually do it them selves -they only specialise in the bride's clothes more - they will get the $300 value one for you & charge your $150-200 more. So donít bother - if u must do your homework if you need to match the bride's & groom's clothes - we just chose classic cuts & colours so usually men suits will match - there is not much matching problem than alot of people think there is - unless you are from the fashion industry or rich & conscious of your look.
Photo montage & music & march in music childhood pics if you want to date can be picked to tell your story which is rather more i feel making my parents & relatives happy as theyíre recollecting their happy past & to post some pics of you & some fave best friends & relatives too will also make them happy. Some say old fashioned but i still had this- pictures to be picked & done up with music & words if required as early as you can - you want to keep the month before the wedding finishing your work & preparing for leave. Music too & march in about 5 sounds, initial march in, food march in, before 2nd march in announcements song, 2nd march in, wine pouring song, all depending on your agenda.
Jewellery if relatives are buying them for you use those -try to request if you can choose esp. very close relatives. Then you decide what else to buy, or get from the bridal salon or to get real ones done. I broke up this bracelet diamonds around & designed my own dangling earrings, as there were no much nice dangling earrings in the shops. This took about 2-3 weeks to make - so take note & at the end of the day i think costume jewellery has its good things as it could be cheaper & big enough, If you must get real jewellery - get classics that you will wear after the wedding as well not just for that day the chuck aside- very wasteful (if costume chuck aside less heart pain) If alot of real - make one Jie mei responsible for it as you might be carrying change around too as you change into different clothes. Chomel pearls are lovely
i got a long chain ($80) there & doubled up for a short necklace with dangling pearls also from chomel for about $20. Look for 10-20% sales. Bring a friend or hubby for opinion on choice
Makeup actual day for mothers if you donít want to pay your makeup artist to do this for your mothers for some reason - get friends or relatives to take care of this if you want face still - or some mothers can come very dressed down (pick dress & clothe with them too if possible with out being too bitchy) I paid like $80/mother for wedding dinner makeup & hairstyling. If you want to arrange a separate makeup artist (which might be better as mothers donít have to makeup so early or com to the hotel so early) get another & share out if your aunts also want then more people it could be cheaper too. For me i had mine done same artist I had to go 1st at 4pm can you imagine for my ROM at 6.30 i was rather pissed as my father in law delayed my MIL & she missed her makeup slot & everything was delayed & my own mother was also late! - Maybe i should have budgeted this in - cos i had ROM before dinner too which was too much of a rush.
Week before wedding facial (done week before) i had these series of 3 renewal facials with some body treatments 3 in a package i signed up for $200/session the renewal facial causes me to break out abit - so i told them to skip it for the week before my wedding just did the body & went to my regular beautician instead - if you must have these facials at least a few times before to know what they do to your skin the few days & week after the facial to know when you need to do it & what can be done & what not. , Nails done 2 days before wedding preferably as near the date. Use your regular hydrating mask if you can daily before the wedding the week before. collect dresses & spend time with your mum - you are about to move out for life!
At the end of it -just start saving alot of $$- alot of hidden costs will appear here & there could be the bridal salon could be the car rental, could be yourself wanting something extra to pamper yourself before the wedding.
(i reposted to amend for spelling errors)
Last edited by vit_c; 16-03-2006 at 07:10 PM.
thank vit_c for the pretty detailed info.. just helped out with my bf's bro's wedding during the weekend that just ended. Hehe..feel like getting married too. I've always got a phobia of marriage but after witnessing the entire process of my bf's bro, I think marriage is such a wonderful thingy...
marriage is contagious happiness! BUt i had my phobia also 6mths before the wedding i had a few panic attacks "I am getting married already - am i ready?" Even the whole month before the wedding i ahd wedding gitters which wer increasing in intensity as the day neared.
Then after wedding now looking at having children i havethe panics too " am i ready for pregnancy mentally?"
There will be all these panics & worries. Just make sure the he is the correct man & that you are both ready then these panics are just normal.
Last edited by vit_c; 14-03-2006 at 04:05 PM.
vitamin c, u are so pro..
are u working as wedding planner?
haha just experienced it myself last december. I dont mind actually haha! share experience - importantly we must be happy in what every you do & decide - even if your heels hurt or the music play was wrong - remmeber you are the bride, smile & just enjoy the day.
Last edited by vit_c; 14-03-2006 at 04:17 PM.
Just some haphazard thoughts while reading vit_c's very detailed post.
1) Hair - Be it treatment, trimming or highlight... it is advised to get it done 2 weeks before photoshoot and again 2 weeks before actual day.
2) Actual Day Schedule - Preparation for it should be done at least 1 month before actual day.
3) Photographer/Videographer - Do you want to have both? Do you have backups (e.g. friends bringing their own cameras should anything go wrong?)
4) MCs - Choose your MCs early and ask them early as well. Apart from being annoyed (having to choose a colour coordinated outfit), it's also not fair to ask them to memorize the script in a rush. Many people do not give enough importance to the selection of MCs.
5) Barang-Barang - Give your helpers clear instructions as to who is in charge of seeing that things are loaded up in the car to go to the hotel/restaurant. Don't just tell them in general. Assign someone to see to it. You'll be surprised how many things there are to bring. Portrait, gowns, suits, toiletries etc.
6) RSVP - Do your RSVP seriously. And that I mean calling or sms-ing to confirm again even if guests already promised 1 month back that they are coming. Many Singaporeans are not courteous enough to inform of last minute changes. Insist that your parents do RSVP for their guests too. I had a guest list of 550, and believe me, my strict instruction for RSVP helped a lot.
caden thanks for filling up yes the barang barang hair clips the black ones & safety pins, tissues & blotters. & things to touch up like loose powder, & lip-gloss in a light pink shade i told was safe. Migraine, gastric medicine, a small pack of cereal incase you are hungry & not allow to eat or need to eat before you eat panadols.
I did RSVP i mth before wedding then send out the cards rather late too but it helped in a way. We panicked as some last min could not come & we had to add some friend last min which was not nice - it looked like last minute as my husband was too busy to call his friend at all so only invited less than half of those he intended to. YOU can send out RSVP or invites earlier but try not to do fresh invites last min - it looks very bad. I was rather angry with my husband as i had to invite his friend fro him last min because he delayed & did not do it for 1 mth! (Busy with work so no choice) I booked for 38 tables with 2 spare & my 2 spares were used up on that day.
My colleague married about 5 yrs back made this mistake he said - did rsvp & mailed out invites 3 -4 mths before hand & had 4 tables empty (painful Shangri - la about $1+K a table)
I did a actual schedule for the jie meis & one for the brothers as they start at different times. & Also get the hotel to email you before hand the standard script - so that the MC can put in his/her wit & humour accordingly. Otherwise just read from it - if you were thrown the task last minute.
My childhood friend aka jie mei was handling the jewellery on her own initiative also held a glass of water with STRAW - i forgot straw & she managed to make some appear! (Take note for JIE MEIs to be ok) & was from time to time making sure i was hydrated - drinking enough. She rehearsed my solo pc with me also that sweet sister (in Christ) of mine. I was so nervous!
Tabling is an art it was this jigsaw puzzle my husband & I did for about 2 mths up to the day before the wedding - after this my husband & both side parents & my brother & cousins helped actual day. You have to mix & match this person cannot sit with that person, invite this group - 11 people in the click ok squeeze - one wants to bring the wife! 12 is too hard to squeeze, etc kind of problems - relative & friends meet & want to change table last min - can leave you with the spare tables opened unnecessarily - extra $800-1k+/table ok! So this responsibility must fall in good hands - experienced as well as your family who can also help to tell people they know pai say place change seats without upsetting people too much - doing it with grace always -these helpers need to be patient calm, matured & have tact in people handling & fast, thinking on their toes.
Whining Also this is a person who is like the best man or the operations manger per say on the floor - he should be close friends with the groom to make decisions on behalf of the groom & know when to feedback to the couple only when necessary - he will make decisions too that will concern your pocket $$. So brief him -esp. the groom on the constraints he can work within. My this helper was really my operations manager who i & my husband work today daily - he knows us for about 5 years already & we see eye to eye in most things this helped alot. He helped us block friends & colleagues wanting to disturb us with downing my hubby with alcohol telling us not to look around just walk out unless you want to get sabotaged, & etc helps. He himself is married & has been such a helper at weddings many times.
Cost: i paid $18/bottle no consignment from a friend's friend, as the quantity was too little. We bought 6 cartons red wine for my 40 tables guests. Which was too much read on why - 2 cartons left about 24 bottles.
Guest mix the younger the crowd the more red wine about 1-1.5 bottles a table to budget - if you know you friends drinking habits better still - Beer i 30 litre barrel was more than enough -not many people drink so much beer now - red wine more. Older generations - especially my hubby's grandfather's friends & peers - they about 8 tables downed about 2 bottles of hard liquor per table. Hard liquor was free corkage but hotel said no non DFS kind - scratch off the DFS sign (that will do!) i had like 40 bottles brought XO, martel, etc & only about 15 bottles left more than half went! - we forgot these old XO drinkers! - ordered too much red wine!
(i cut & past into word for spelling correct & reposted -terrible spelling mistakes)
Last edited by vit_c; 16-03-2006 at 07:09 PM.
Sad to say if ever I am getting married, I think the alcohol will be the most ex part.
How about other cost or any hidden cost? Ang Baos and etc?
thanks vit c
i copied this and email my SO
it's really v helpful
I think i need to mail this to SO too. Then he will know what a bomb it costs to have a wedding.. :wow: