Planning your Wedding

[Ribbons]

I also planned mine at earlier this year only. I was really geared up then! I had sourcing matrixes done on every item; the gowns, the photographers, venue, makeup artisits.. I had an overall pie-chart to monitor my expenditure.. I search internationally too! hahahha.. maybe that's why after all the planning, i pretty much learnt quite a bit of the base costs, supply sources, etc. (I think it's occupational hazard for me actually... )

Yup, the most important thing is, do not be swayed by any sales person, or even the entries in the forums like singaporebride, etc, could seemingly be only portraying lop-sided opinions. You've got to experienced them yourself and clearly know what you want.

And ultimately, i totally agree with atinarin, all the wedding props are really just transient..

[atinarin]

yes this wedding business is a major money making one. Ask friends who have gotten married. Some spent thousands extra for the albums and pics but they are lying in the storeroom after a while. Others spend so much on the banquet but dont recognise half the people, are too stressed and busy to enjoy themselves and cant remember anything. Some even spend alot on a cake, which will be eaten and gone down the drain. For things like videographers or photographers, you can easily get a cheaper one, memories are memories, whether or not they come with all the bells and whistles.

[seagull]

atinarin , i couldn't agree with you more! but somehow nowadays people think 'i must spend this amount, invite this no. of people, etc' ..like SOP like that..sort of like 'lost the meaning' already... But people spent alot because 'it once in a life time' hehehehehe....and of course, vendors use this reason to make people spend more...

but it's true about the photos..i have friends telling us not to spend so much on photos..they don't even see it after the wedding anymore..it's now collecting dust in the storeroom..

[atinarin]

yes, thats why fo rus, we didnt order even 1 extra photo. Just stuck to the package. Havent looked at my photos in a long time too. Only for the wedding itself, we had a photographer and developed alot of photos. We really put our foot down when it came to our big day. We had the same ideas from very early on that it would not be a big thing, more close relatives and friends only, especially because our dream venue didnt allow for too many people. In the end we didnt invite ALL our colleagues, just some and for relatives, no relative we hadnt seen in a long time. Its no big deal. I told myself if anyone gets offended, they can just strike my name off their guest list next time. No worries for me.

We are not chinese so there's no fetchign of the bride so we didnt even bother with car decorations. Did the montage ourself, rest were alot of hard work ensuring everyone we hired knew our high expectations and didnt slacken.

[atinarin]

And i dont know how some places charge $480 minimum for cakes...good grief...

And do the planning yourself, its more fun and meaningful.

[seagull]

Oh ic..sound like we similar thinking on this..we also prepare not to add anything else other than sticking to the package...etc...plan not to invite more than 15tables, etc... We roughly know what we wanted but haven't really got down to do it yet..

[Ribbons]

atinarin & seagull.. me same as u girls too

In fact, I'm not having the standard pre-wedding-pose-by-beach-crawl-on-grass bridal photography. Most people that know of this, think that I would regret later to miss the opportunity to dazzle for the camera, posing in all grandeur in the name of a wedding. But seriously, what's the point of paying for an expensive book of photographs that 1) bear no semblance to your couplehood dating days (i meant all the unnatural poses at exotic sites) 2) would just be shelved after the rounds of exhibition during the wedding dinner and perhaps 2months thereafter? Instead, I chose only a photographer for the actual day, and yes, atinarin, I like the way you put it, "memories are memories, whether or not they come with all the bells and whistles".. I can't agree more. I am having one gown for the church ceremony and am toying with the idea of just wearing a kua for the entire wedding dinner, without going through gown changes. There's no better representation of a joyous wedding occasion than being clad in the Kua, which only the bride is entitled to wear, once in her lifetime. (then again, because the kua surprisingly, looks pretty good on me.. hahahha.. ) Anyway, pompous talks of all this coolness aside, perhaps nearing to my big day, i'll be a bag of nerves and asking for changes even if it's just browning of some rose petals on the dinnertable.

[atinarin]

im not chinese but i loved the photo of me in the kua too during the studio shot. anyways my mum said i didnt look one bit like me in the pics so well...hahah.

Ours was a 10 table affair..it was so cosy and intimate that the march in was also a nice friendly one with us waving at everyone and practically talking to them! I did change gowns but only once...it was a beautiful night all in all...and best part? We were on target with the timing, not one of those huge shingdings where you sit around eating peanuts till the cows come home but the bride is still not ready!

We didnt do the champagne pouring either, in fact we didnt serve any alcohol cos its against my beliefs. So we didnt have any drunk pple creating trouble either...after the dinner when the guests had left, it was just family snapping away pics , playing around...very nice!

Ribbons- do what u love and u will remember it for a lifetime. Be careful when choosing pics cos the staff will keep pushing and suddenly come up with all praises abou thow goregous you look, so that you will buy more photos.

[Ribbons]

Atinarin...
I didn't even go with a bridal package.. ... I had my gown designed and tailored. And subsequently, i bought the entire business.. nah.. that's another story. Anyway, nope, i am not having bridal photos or even the wedding package, for that matter. Everything.. DIY

We're planning for a 1030pm sharp (okay, maybe 11pm) ending to the dinner so that the party can pop over to zouk which is next door, thereafter...

[atinarin]

Ribbons not bad you could even take over the biz? Hmmm care to share which biz it is?
My dinner ended pretty early only relatives stayed behind. After that, HB and I walked, yes walked down to the hotel nearby for our romantic stay there haha...oh and no honeymoon either. I hate travelling. Now cant also cos we are expecting our first child.

[smurfy]

Hi gals,

Other than gym, exercise, does anyone goes for body sculpting massages? Any recommendations please?

I am thinking of toning my arms/shoulders area and my back as well. I want to wear a low back gown.

Any advise welcome, thank you!

[gucci_]

Anyone knows where to buy rose petals ?? Intend to use it on my wedding day.

[chupps]

Ribbons i so love your avatar. care to share your pics? who took your pictures? lovely

[princessy]

gucci_, think you should be able to get the petals at far east flora.

[fangfang]

Hi all, I need your suggestion. Would you spend S$100 for a wedding invitation card design?
something like this:
Wedding Invitation Card