Customary / Solemnization / Wedding / Banquet

[Sugarfairy]

Has anybody held a chinese customary (morning), church wedding (afternoon) and wedding banquet (evening) all within the same day? Coz i've got to solemnise in a church... So i'm wondering if its possible to hold all on the same day...???

[efai]

possible
just that very tiring
got to plan the agenda and stick to the schedule very closely

[Sugarfairy]

possible
just that very tiring
got to plan the agenda and stick to the schedule very closely

Have got no idea how to go about it? Definitely gonna go thru the customary & wedding banquet next year... but havent much confirm when to hold the church solemnisation. What do u suggest?

[efai]

fetch bride, go groom house, go back bride house..... probably can finish by 10 or 11am. (depends on your auspicious timings)
then change and proceed to church for solemnization
followed by lunch reception at church
should end about 2 or latest 3pm
proceed to hotel
rest a while
around 4pm start make up and dress up again
some phototaking around the hotel
7.30pm welcome guests and cocktail
8pm or so commence dinner

[xBabypanda]

Hi can I just ask... do ppl normally hold the customary/ROM/banquet together in the same day? If I do my ROM on a separate day, do I have to invite all the relatives?

[xiaomantou]

xBabypanda I think it depends on how close you are with your relatives? We had planned to do a separate ROM too but jut inviting the immediate family members + really close friends (like only 2 tables please ...) but due to some issues, we're thinking of having everything on the same day too. Customary, ROM, reception ... but the thing is, we're looking to do a lunch reception which sounds like a huge huge rush.

[xBabypanda]

Not very close. Haha. I've thought of doing everything in one day, but it's going to seem very rushed. Besides, the customary is normally in the morning and relatives will be there. So if the ROM reception is in the afternoon then they've got to go back 1st and come out again.

You mean your wedding dinner is going to be a lunch? I've thought of it too, but scared that people might not come because of other commitments.

[xiaomantou]

Oooh we'll do the lunch on a weekend definitely, the attendance should be quite OK?

We've yet to gone through some of the auspicious dates/times given to us by the geomancer, but he did mention that it's doable (and actually done by a lot of other couples)! I'm just worried about what if some stuff goes wrong and mess things up, and things like that.

[anmikazuki]

yup. lunch wkend should be ok. In fact, I think ppl nowadays prefer lunch because dinner will end up late. The ones with family will try to leave earlier during dinner time. Lunch time, they can bring their family along.
How about you invite the solemnizer to home.
For example:
morning - fetch the bride go to groom's house. followed by ROM then chinese customary, then go to banquet place for reception.

[spbhatt]

Hi,
Don't you worry about he presence of the people,as now a days people like to enjoy lunch than dinner so they can reach home early after finishing it off.So plan you day,everything will be alright.-ARoyalAffiarca

[efai]

some people ROM first, then 1 or 2 years later hold banquet (maybe to wait for the house)

ROM usually for close relatives and friends
a manageable number would be 30-40
lunch or high-tea reception

wedding lunches are getting popular
prices slightly cheaper than dinner
weekend should be okay, since u are going to inform them early. if they truly wish to attend your wedding and give you blessings, they would keep the slot free

[xiaomantou]

efai Hi babe! Long time no talk ... but ya I think we'll be holding our ROM together with the wedding lunch next year due to some date and period clashes with my other friend's wedding, etc.

anmikazuki Thanks for your input!

[efai]

are u doing a close-knit one or full banquet?

[xiaomantou]

Probably only less than 150 guests including all the friends and relatives we plan to invite.

[efai]

Probably only less than 150 guests including all the friends and relatives we plan to invite.

do u need all 150 guests to witness the solemnization?
or just have some close relatives and friends?
you can arrange to do it before the guests arrive.
if u are going for hotel banquet, u can ask them to prepare a room or poolside or rooftop for the ceremony.
after that tea ceremony (if required)
then proceed to welcome guests and then commence lunch