mixed marriages 2008; any1....?

[cheeks]

any mix marriages here? im a mixed muslim bride with a chinese groom.
AD in oct n still tons of things to do!

erm... question... 1:what do couples actually do at tea ceremony other than servin
tea?
2:what do you wear; wg, eg or kua?

beginnin to freaked out! eeek.....!!

[thehenofdoom]

hi. i'm a muslim bride with british groom, got married at the beginning of this month. we had a solemnisation and a dinner, but both very simple. still haven't collected marriage cert. no time. :/
are you doing both the muslim and chinese thing?

pictures:

[cheeks]

well, i actually squeeze 3 events in one day: tea ceremony, solemnize n
dinner! hahax... crazy right...
wont be doing any noon reception.. dinner will be for both sides guests..
mine will be simple too.. its more of an exclusive family affair..

btw, both of you look really nice!did u guys go for e marriage guidance course
yet?

time is runnin out n im gettin really nervous these days..
i still cant believe im takin e plunge! eeewww....!

[cheeks]

well, i actually squeeze 3 events in one day: tea ceremony, solemnize n
dinner! hahax... crazy right...
wont be doing any noon reception.. dinner will be for both sides guests..
mine will be simple too.. its more of an exclusive family affair..

btw, both of you look really nice!did u guys go for e marriage guidance course
yet?

time is runnin out n im gettin really nervous these days..
i still cant believe im takin e plunge! eeewww....!

[thehenofdoom]

we went just before the wedding, it's pretty lame. but you need the cert they give you at the end of the course to pick up your marriage cert.

btw we went to the express marriage guidance course at darul arqam, there was no tea (but there was lunch)! apparently for the non express course they gave you tea...

[sephirias]

not getting married in 2008 but i'm part of a mixed race marriage = ) fiance's indian-eurasian and i'm chinese. not wearing a kwa.. wanted to wear a sari but am wearing a cheongsam for the church wedding instead. we're having a dinner in 1 rochester, and the outfit will be chic/fun/sassy = )

[mayaray]

my hubby (got hitched on Sat) is from UK. I decided to wear a kwa for tea ceremony and got mixed responses from some of my relatives. Apparently back home it's not 'in fashion' to wear traditoinal stuff, unlike Singapore. Oh well, it kinda dampened my mood for a few minutres as my cousin and his gf said, I looked like chinese new year and it's too 'loose'. But my non chinese friends loved it in general.

We didnt follow traditions too strictly, just adapted here and there and i stressed to everyone i wanted it informal, cozy and familiar. The dinner was great, the restaurant very romantic, plus we had a free jazz band (very good) playing that night and am happy it's done and everyone had a nice time.

[Sugarbean]

Ohhh yes ours will be a mixed one too. My hubs to be is indian. me chinese. it will be a chindian wedding. but not so much into the race customs la. We will not do most of the customs and will be having a church ceremony as we're both christians. So we will do mostly western practices instead.

[cookingmama]

getting marry nx yr not 2008 tho.. a mixed marriage too.. my SO is australian

=) holding reception here.. (not the 120 pple type) and there too. and there will tea ceremony too!
teehee! so excited must start sourcing for wedding gowns already.

gonna have bridal shower there..

[dalilprincess]

hey cheeks, pardon me but im quite curious. did your so convert? my bf's chinese and technically im malay. im wondering if we can get married without him converting. =// i heard that it is possible but under the muslim law the marriage will be considered tak sah or something right? i don't know if we should continue dating if we're not gonna get married eventually =((

[cherrykisses]

dalilprincess, you're right. a civil marriage would be deemed "void" under the muslim law, thus leading to a lot of other implications, like when you have children later, they are considered born out of wedlock, etc, etc.

are you and him planning to get married and have you talked to him about this yet?

[mayaray]

Hmm.. interesting discussion. My best friend is muslim and her hubby is non muslim. He converted. But they have since migrated to France, and have a baby. The child is being raised quite liberally since it's France.He doesnt use his muslim name, i.e they are non practising any religion but my best friend doesnt eat pork etc but they have dogs and drink wine etc. I asked her if her baby will be a muslim but she says it's up to her to decide when she grows up.

[dalilprincess]

cherrykisses : i don't know, we've casually mentioned it but it hasn't been much of a discussion since we're both still pretty young to settle down. the thing is, i don't wanna date the guy for 10 years only to realise that we might not be getting married due to religion being a problem. i'm pretty open about everything but i don't eat pork, but i feel that it's rather unfair to have my other half convert. =// even if he doesn't mind, it might be unfair towards his family and vice versa.

my aunt actually got "remarried" under the muslim law recently after her husband converted but her kids are still quite open towards religion. the thing is, i have too very extreme sides of relatives. half are really open and the other half is pretty strict. -__-" whatever happens, i want my kids to be able to choose their own beliefs instead of being forced.

in other words, im in a huge dilemma. =(

mayaray : yeah, that's basically what i am. the thing i'm worried about is mainly the "getting married" part. i don't know know if my bf would even convert for the sake of it.

*sigh. look's like sometimes it might not be a good idea to date out of the box. =//

[cheeks]

time is runnin out n im scared..

[cheeks]

dalilprincess, yup, my SO converted... finally! haha..
well, civil marriage is prohibited in islam but nowadays people do as they
deemed fit.. do consider wisely.. its a religion thing so its quite a sensitive issue..

my SO a chn too n im a chn/mly/indian mixed but we've been together for
donkey years n he has no excuse not to convert! haha.. actually, i told him from the start if we were to get hitch, he has to convert or no deal.. he's contemplating at first partly coz of family but he relented in e end.

oooh...! finally got my cheongsam for tea ceremony! its pink! hehe