Engagement Rings, Wedding Bands

[Joce7878]

That's lovely Atypical.... so happy for you!

[Medusa]

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[riverie]

That's a sad story. I'm glad you kept the pictures.

Sometimes things in life don't turn out the way we plan it to be. The more 'ideal' plans we make, the higher chances it's going to deviate from ideal, and the harder we'll fall.
Sometimes, we will live really happily if we do not plan so much and expect so much...but then again the saying goes, if you fail to plan, plan to fail.

So....the conclusion is...I don't know. Life is just so unpredictable. Just live life to the fullest, treasure every present moment, look at the future with our heads up and step out of the past.

[atypical]

That's sad Mel. Well, life just sometimes throws you curveballs that you cannot catch. we'll just have to try to keep it positive & not dwell on the negatives...

Hey, I used to be like everybody else... wanted that big minimum one carat ring. Prioties change after a while I guess. It's not wrong to want a flashy rock. Just make sure that your SO can afford it!

[mango]

Champagne, I can understand how you feel as you look at your parents/ past esp now that you're preparing for your own wedding.

Don't stay too long in the past, you've gotta move on. What's happenned has happenned. People from all over are backing from marriages everyday, and what YOU can do is to be determined to be part of those who stayed married, and very happily so for the rest of your life. The price of the engagement ring will not determine how long you one is married, nor the level of happiness; tell yourself that. Try to look at how BIG this thing really is. You're about to commit the rest of your life to another person, and this person will vow to love and cherish under all cirsumstances. Surely the ring pales in comparism doesn't it? You're both going to spend the rest of your lives together, and you know that in time to come, he will give you the best he can afford, HIS best. If he can't buy a nice ring now, he'll surely give you something much better years down the road. When that happens, you'll get to look back on NOW together with him and know in your heart that you had loved and supported him back then, and you've both came a long way together. Doesn't it make THAT ring more meaningful than if he can afford your dream rock now?

I always told my husband that I am VERY glad(I am truly) that we suffered hard times from the beginning(when we started dating he failed in a joint venture thingy), because it makes him see how much I love him and know in his heart that if he ever lost everything, he'll still have me. I'm a person who's easily excited over $(haha, who is't huh?), and if my husband's never been poor, I'd never have known if I'm capable of being there in the worst times. And we've never gone through hard times, I'll never cherish what we now have as much.

Try to see if you can derive something precious from this, its all about perspectives. If you want, you can turn this into something so valuable that no amount of $ can buy.

[Medusa]

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[loves]

Your diamond ring sounds lovely. Congrats!!!

[Medusa]

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[riverie]

Originally posted by champagne
Thanks! But... another neurotic thought , NOW I'm wondering if he over-stretched for the ring, according to my online research, a guide says 80% of ONE month's salary is ideal.. according to my gf who got it from no-idea-what-source, TWO month's salary is ideal. I just did my math he bought me about 120% of ONE month's salary. I don't know why I'm worrying about such minor details, I kept asking him today if he liked the rings, if it was too expensive, if he thinks we were fleeced... I think I'm just excessively... worried about such details. Sigh, why am I even stressing about it (yeap I'm still wondering how many prong still... sigh).

Don't worry over such things Champ! Bought is bought, cannot refund or what right? Besides, a worrying bride is not a pretty bride, isn't it? :laugh:
I am glad you found THE ring. What matters most is that you like it. Afterall, it's a once in a lifetime thingy!

[gingerbread]

Champagne, your rings sound lovely and don't worry about it. Just enjoy it.

My fiance will be spending less than one month's salary on my ring but I'm perfectly happy with it.

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[Joce7878]

Originally posted by gingerbread
Champagne, your rings sound lovely and don't worry about it. Just enjoy it.

My fiance will be spending less than one month's salary on my ring but I'm perfectly happy with it.

Yep... not the cost or how big, how white (the color) the diamond is... but the thought and love behind the ring. No way to measure love from the amount he spends on the ring based on his pay package.

Champagne... dun sweat over the ring....just enjoy the thought og your SO getting the ring as a symbol of your love ... and take it as a token of the start of many more wonderful memories together.... Things like how much the ring is, whether u bought the right color/carat size/clarity/prong setting/etc is SO insignificant compared to what you already have and will continue to enjoy for the rest of your life together.

[keiko]

i second what Joce said........

after a while, you'll forget all these issues on size, quality etc and cherish the ring cos it's bought by someone dearest to you.

Just like my engagement ring that hubby bought. It's comparatively smaller (0.35) because he decided to compromise size for quality (he feels that he should get a GIA certified). I love this ring because of all the trouble that he took in buying it. He got this without my knowledge, scoured jewellry shops. He even had to enlist the help of 2 ladies shopping there, haggled with the sales person for the best price. To me, it's the perfect ring