Chinese / Customary Wedding Traditions & Customs

[sn0wny]

U mean what, invites can only be send out after GDL ah?

[VinLongo]

i dont think its neccessary but because GDL, guy side will bring cakes etc to the lady side. so the lady will normally distribute the cakes together with the cards to her relatives.

same for the guy. they bring the cakes together with the invitation to their relatives. so normally its after or ON day of GDL. normally ya so i dont think its like 'cannot'

[sn0wny]

Ok Ok, im very confuse, thanks gal.

Y teochew so troublesome, must this must that. I am a teochew myself, dad says must be out of the house by 5am on wedding day, OMG!!!

[autumn23.Tan]

Ok Ok, im very confuse, thanks gal.

Y teochew so troublesome, must this must that. I am a teochew myself, dad says must be out of the house by 5am on wedding day, OMG!!!

are you sure?

[blurblur25]

i dont think its neccessary but because GDL, guy side will bring cakes etc to the lady side. so the lady will normally distribute the cakes together with the cards to her relatives.

same for the guy. they bring the cakes together with the invitation to their relatives. so normally its after or ON day of GDL. normally ya so i dont think its like 'cannot'

That what i heard as well, so i guess is the same for almost everyone

[sn0wny]

are you sure?

Something like that. Or is it my dad is scaring us?

[autumn23.Tan]

Something like that. Or is it my dad is scaring us?

i guess it depends on family... my current boss is a teochew but he went to pick up his wife around 9am previously and both of them are teochews too...

i think my future bro in law will be coming over to my house around 7.30 - 8am...

[Dubp]

Yeah I was out at 5.30am and my hubby's brothers assembled at my new house at 4am in the morning.... amongst his group of friends I'm the earliest to get out of the house

On the other hand I think it depends on the timing too... whether its auspicious or not...

[sn0wny]

Supposingly teochew bride have to get out of the house before daybreak.

[kristal]

if i'm not wrong, i think teochew bride have to leave the hse before dawn, as to avoid those dirty things. In the olden days, funerals also sets off in the morning, so to avoid them, the bride got to leave the house earlier?? Can someone confirm?

[VinLongo]

i think its wrong. its to avoid 'white events' like what u've mentioned. Not 'dirty things'.

[Dubp]

I think Vinlongo is correct... seemed to have heard my mom explaining but I didn't pay attention haha as usual

[happypixie]

Hi,

Is it a normal practice that couples or parents of the couple would seek help from "shi fu" to get a date for chinese customary? BF and I were given a TIMING which we think is almost impossible to follow and are thinking not to follow.... any advise

would like to know if anyone knows whats the procedure like for chinese customary...have no idea on the full procedure....any advise

[VinLongo]

yea, its normal.

what timing are u talking about?

[kula]

Hi anyone here hainanese?
need help..... want to know what are the customs to follow for hainanese getting married?