Auspicious / Popular dates for weddings

[pinkdewy]

My anniversary on 19/09 so I always take it as 长长久久

[CLEO]

i rather not cuz i prefer to celebrate it each year so as to constantly remind ourselves the vow that we made on that special day

[sassypink]

agree with ASE!

[zhen32]

Any more recomendation of shifu for wedding ceremony dates? TIA

[dreamiez]

any idea if i can pick a date for year 2009 now?? dad keep reminding me to book the banquet place early.

[eternity]

I think the Tong shu for 2009 will be out by CNY next year. Most hotels do not allow bookings for 2009 yet.

[dreamiez]

oh okie. that means i most probably can only pick a date next year. thanks!

[eternity]

Yup, early next year will be out. Just keep a lookout. In the mean time, you can ask the hotels for 2008 packages for reference. Prices will increase slightly yearly.

[plasterger]

argh, need a channel to rant...my SO and I have planned for our wedding next yr,....now his parents say we must see a shifu to get good dates....and can only do so after we confirm our flat...argh.. why must we be so superstitious ???
everytime plan until nice nice, last min say this cannot that cannot....they think we plan wedding very easy.
why can't they just let us decide on our own???? it is OUR wedding afterall ***.
argh...such a headache......might as well don't get married la, just elope or just a ROM, no customary.....

[Ribbons]

darlin'.. trust me, it gets worse as the day goes by.. and will culminate on the day of wedding itself. I've heard from my photographer that he'd shot at a wedding whereby the mother of either bride or groom was unhappy (most likely with things that didn't go a certain way of hers) that she refused to come down for the wedding dinner. And the couple had to really beg on their knees for her to comply...

Like it or not, the wedding does not neccessarily belongs to you, but just always remember that the marriage will only belong to you two.

[DreamA]

I have the same thoughts as Plasterger. Sometimes just wanna elope to another country and live our own lives. My situation is slightly different cos of religions. He is a catholic while my dad is a devoted buddhist. I have always been dreaming of a church wedding ...think its not going to come true..

[bee]

plasterger / DreamA, i can 101% understand how you feel. I also want to rant.

My future MIL and SIL (my bf's sister) made even worse remarks, saying that we arranged everything ourselves without consulting them at all. I was so shocked and of course hurt when I heard this comment. You are not paying a single cent for our wedding, why must I consult you? It's not as if they gave us $20k and we happily splurged on a grand wedding. So frustrated.

Worse still, the KPO SIL also told me, my bf like to eat homecooked food, so I should cook for him. MY GOD. I am working and contributing to our income ok? It's not as if I am shaking legs at home like her. How can she expect me to cook everyday? Might as well ask her brother to marry a maid then. ANGRY.

I am actually looking forward to getting married. But seems like this will be the beginning of hell...maybe...

I didn't tell my mum about what happened. Imagine how hurt she will be if she knew that the MIL and SIL are so mean to me. I am also someone else's daughter, what give them the right to "control" me? Everytime i think of this, can't control my tears

[Ribbons]

My mom knew of how I'd been treated,.. and my bro told me, when I was not at home, she sobbed quietly while confiding in him her concerns during the days leading to my wedding. Seriously, my heart bled.

[linggy]

i used to wonder if only my bf has a sister, so i would have a sister-in-law like a friend...now hearing so many stories about horrible SIL. i am blessed with my bf having only brothers...

oh ribbons...

[plasterger]

thanks alot gals Ribbons, DreamA, bee, thanks for sharing....i also talk to a few of my friends who just married, they told me that they also been through what i been through....
anyway comforting to know i am not the only one feeling like this.

i agree, i also told my bf that we must be mentally prepared for more to come. esp we have to prepare not only wedding but also flat.
and afterall, he is the first son to get married, and i am the eldest daughter and also the first person to get married in both our families. guess we really have to give and take to each other.

same sentimentals as linggy, luckily my SO siblings are all brothers, and luckily my parents are more open-minded and not the typical traditional type and give us the freedom to plan our own wedding to our likes.. only my SO mum is more difficult , as she is more traditional thinking (but sometimes, she is modern too, so i am confused at times)
anyway, i have gotten a shifu contact to consult for wedding date, just in case our mission to talk over my bf mother fails. we are still hoping and thinking of having a good talk to her, explaining to her our plans and our decision on the wedding date.

bee and ribbons, you have to be strong. maybe you need to sit down with your MIL and SIL and have a good talk with them to iron the misunderstandings?
guess it is natural for parents to protect their kids, be it they are 2 yr old or 20 yr old or 40 yr old.
my bf mom was at first unhappy that we went to ballot for flats so far away from her house.
until my bf explain to her a few times, why we choose the area.
but she still feeling sad that her son live far away from her, and even tell my bf this - your wife has mom, you also has a mom, don't forget your mom.
i was bit offended at first, but i tell myself, perhaps it is all parents worry.


suddenly i envy the westerners, they can just get a simple wedding and easily get a place and live happily..... how i wish i can be like them too

** guess we should start a thread on wedding rants and headache **