Over 30 and single

[Ang Mo Wolf]

Doh.. ! Give me some "face" for god sake, learn that angmo ! Shame on you the number of years you've been here !



Well, I think that's the difference between a guy and a girl ! In my 30s now, I still cooed at chick flick like when I was at 18 except I'm a little wiser now to know that's not reality.

Also, you'll have to consider the context of Asians watching Hollywood films at that time vs the angmo watching Hollywood films in hedonistic land in the 80s !

In the Asian culture where expression and emotion needs to be suppressed, the Hollywood films at that time were a great sense of release and escapism for many. And this holds true until today, that's why Korean soap dramas have millions of fans across Asia and the Middle East.

In the angmo culture where expression and emotions can be freely expressed, Korean soap dramas will never make it there because the angmo sees no need for the release of their emotions though films and dramas when it is part of their everyday life. Hence, the highly emotionally charged Korean soap drama would have been deemed as "cheesy" in the angmo context.

So yes, I am in no doubt that many Asian females especially the younger ones still has unrealistic views of being in love and in a relationship through these emotionally charged films and dramas !

You got a point there. So now I'm just too curious and I got to ask: which one is your favorite chick flick?

[Banyanresort]

There are perfect man in this world, but i realised that most of them are all taken up...married!
I do have some friends who are married to the perfect man. Envy them though, but not everyone can have such good life.

[Ang Mo Wolf]

There are perfect man in this world, but i realised that most of them are all taken up...married!
I do have some friends who are married to the perfect man. Envy them though, but not everyone can

They might look "perfect" from the outside, living with them could actually be a whole different story. Never judge a book by the cover. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. The slice of pie always looks bigger on somebodies else plate. etc etc

[Borgen-breeze]

You got a point there. So now I'm just too curious and I got to ask: which one is your favorite chick flick?

My all time fav is super cliche Under the Tuscan Sun !

And now I'm back in Singapore, I quite enjoy some the Korean dramas at times ! Brilliance legacy i think it's called...

I've been pretty good at adapting my fantasy no matter where I live I think.. and they all have the same theme along the lines of poor, sad, heart-broken girls all made good in the end, living happily ever after with either their suave boyfriends or ended up with an Italian home with beautiful olive groves, or both... ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....

[Borgen-breeze]

There are perfect man in this world, but i realised that most of them are all taken up...married!
I do have some friends who are married to the perfect man. Envy them though, but not everyone can have such good life.

Banyanresort,

I don't think there are any perfect man or woman as such.... !

Being in a relationship or a marriage isn't about perfection it's about being perseverant and committed to making things work out between the union of 2 people with very different lifestyles, behaviours, values and beliefs system and still loving and respecting each other for it. In the midst of it all, these 2 people need to be tolerant, determined, open-minded and be able to accept and live with the flaws and imperfection of each other.

The "perfection" is where both people have mastered the skill to do all of the above and still stay sane and can still be there for each other when they are 80 years old.

That's perfection... (for me anyway)

The perfect couple that you see together isn't perfect by any chance or luck but by sheer determination of hardwork and commitment to each other to overcome one difficulty after another which we don't see and seldom will.

[B Rabbit]

I'm a 32 year old male...have never been in a r/s before. Thought i am one of the rare few...happen to chance upon this forum, and is a bit shocked that quite a number of ladies had never been in one b/4 too

A normal guy, i think, are not put off by ladies earning more than them because of ego and stuff. I feel it's more to that guys will feel that they won't be able to provide a better life for these ladies....maybe that's one of the reasons why some of them go for non-local ladies.....

[dianayeu]

I'm a 32 year old male...have never been in a r/s before. Thought i am one of the rare few...happen to chance upon this forum, and is a bit shocked that quite a number of ladies had never been in one b/4 too

A normal guy, i think, are not put off by ladies earning more than them because of ego and stuff. I feel it's more to that guys will feel that they won't be able to provide a better life for these ladies....maybe that's one of the reasons why some of them go for non-local ladies.....

Most of my girls friends, including me, are not looking for guys for that reason. We hope to look for a guy that complements our deficits. What we lack, we hope he can make up for it and vice versa.

[janelin]

I feel that only guys with similar values and outlooks for life is a real "soulmate". Otherwise, there will be a lot of conflicts in the marriage.

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[GorgeousFlawless]

Banyanresort,

I don't think there are any perfect man or woman as such.... !

Being in a relationship or a marriage isn't about perfection it's about being perseverant and committed to making things work out between the union of 2 people with very different lifestyles, behaviours, values and beliefs system and still loving and respecting each other for it. In the midst of it all, these 2 people need to be tolerant, determined, open-minded and be able to accept and live with the flaws and imperfection of each other.

The "perfection" is where both people have mastered the skill to do all of the above and still stay sane and can still be there for each other when they are 80 years old.

That's perfection... (for me anyway)

The perfect couple that you see together isn't perfect by any chance or luck but by sheer determination of hardwork and commitment to each other to overcome one difficulty after another which we don't see and seldom will.

Well put, couldn't have said it any better myself...

[Listening .Ear]

I'll just like to get to know anyone who might be on the same boat?

I've tried and tried so hard these past 5 years. My main problem is not having enough friends as base to start with, often the friends recommended guys are the best. I've tried sdu, online, everything I can think of and failed.

There are a lot more girls than guys in this world. I am just thinking to myself as well, if I'm going to be unmarried, I won't have to act so responsible anymore. I'll do the lowly paid jobs which I like.. and pursue more hobby courses..

Money will run out very fast. Once I've done my duty to my mother and I've done whatever I've wanted to do in this world, maybe it's time to go. Not now, perhaps I'll finish at 45. i don't think I'll regret it How many married people have said they have done whatever they want to do even when they have a family?

No disrespect. Maybe the problem lies with you given that you have tried all means. Why not try identifying your problems and get it resolved. I am sure it will work wonder. At times its about you giving the wrong energy. When you meet someone, make sure you stay positive dont even think of failing and be yourself. I am sure you can do better than that cheers.

-Listening Ear-

[HeartYouLove]

When I am reading comments here even the old ones I think of this song "We found love in a hopeless place". When I am hearing this I always agree to it. Sometimes even if you are not attracted to your longest closest friend there this times where chemistry is build up. But of course dont create it on your mind alone. Ladies have this feeling where you will know guys are attracted to you.

Dont be on a rush and dont mind your age. I am not literally single. I have bf but I dont want and I am not ready to marry him that is why in Status I am still single. I keep telling' him dont try to propose bec. I might hurt and disappoint him. My mum always telling me be married before your 30s but I dont like because I have a lot of plans that I wanted to finish and be successful with first before locking myself into another big responsibilities.

So you ladies dont be in a hurry just steady and let it be!

[Ang Mo Wolf]

Ladies have this feeling where you will know guys are attracted to you.

It's not that difficult: most of the guys out there will pretty much go with most of the girls out there. Blame it on testosterone. ***sarcasm***

[hark]

i waiting for guy to like me.. but no1 like me

i actually prefer guy love girl more than girl love guy.... hw u ppl think ah

[Ang Mo Wolf]

i waiting for guy to like me.. but no1 like me

Stop waiting and start liking a guy.

[MajeroLee]

This is strange, here i am reading about females who are in the 30s and still single, couldn't find a bf.. yet, i couldn't meet any female who are single. Everyone around me are either married or attached, planning for marriage. Perhaps its really not fated.