Depression

[VictoriaZ]

Hi

I got tried seeing psychologist, but my psychologist like dont understand me, like keep on wanting to change me, the I felt quite strange talking to him about my issues.

But voluntary work sound quite helpful, I will give it a try. Do you know any charity telephone number? Or how do I get to do charity work, and how many types are there. Thanks.

Really appreciate the ideas you guys give.

By the way, I am really glad you overcome all these and am happier with your life now.

[VinLongo]

have u told him or her about yr feeling towards him/her? maybe he is not changing u but guiding u to try to change yr negative mindset. otherwise u can seek help from other professionals. if u have religion then u may like to seek refugee from yr religion too. but continue on seeing professional if u have depression. dont stop.

[Miss Bliss]

Hi

I got tried seeing psychologist, but my psychologist like dont understand me, like keep on wanting to change me, the I felt quite strange talking to him about my issues.

But voluntary work sound quite helpful, I will give it a try. Do you know any charity telephone number? Or how do I get to do charity work, and how many types are there. Thanks.

Really appreciate the ideas you guys give.

By the way, I am really glad you overcome all these and am happier with your life now.

Well, i don't know what association you have in mind, just go online and find their number. They will be more than happy if you tell them that you have some time to volunteer. Good Luck!! and dont forget to have fun!!

[VictoriaZ]

Hey cotters,

Thanks for the advices.

I am much better now. I bought some self help books, and also tried chatting with more people. Somehow these all helps me to think through. My family, boyfriend and best friend supports are also a great help.

My advice to depress patients:
When you are depress, you tend to lock yourself more. But if you act according to your depress feelings, it worsens your condition. So try to do more things like going out with friends, and etc. Even if you fear, you get to learn from your experiences rather than staying in your self assume world. Furthermore, emotions are irrational. It changes all mintues. So dont listen to your emotions too much and treat it as something that give you a warning sign.
It is important to realise that you have emotions and to fulfill your emotional needs. If you are depress now, that means somewhere in your life is not fufilling this part of you. A warning for you to make a change in your life and not get stuck in it.
Do the things that you enjoy and love, instead of pleasing people or making your life more perfect because its more meaningful and drives you longer. The latter ones will gives you more anxieties.

[yooo]

its good that people who have depression voice it out, at least online. rmb you're never alone

depression is often caused by lack of confidence or feeling inadequate in your own personal ability. it can range from academic, work and even your own appearence.

i'm sure all of us have felt inadequate or not as good as others before, but once you take it so hard about your lack of ability as compared to others, depression will slowly but surely take a hold of you.

one tip i can say it to learn to be contented with who you are & what you have.

learn to appreciate the simplest things in life yeh?

afterall, we all have one life; live it to the fullest!

[nutritionpark]

its good that people who have depression voice it out, at least online. rmb you're never alone

depression is often caused by lack of confidence or feeling inadequate in your own personal ability. it can range from academic, work and even your own appearence.

i'm sure all of us have felt inadequate or not as good as others before, but once you take it so hard about your lack of ability as compared to others, depression will slowly but surely take a hold of you.

one tip i can say it to learn to be contented with who you are & what you have.

learn to appreciate the simplest things in life yeh?

afterall, we all have one life; live it to the fullest!

true true.. somemore life can be really quite competitive, especially at work.
whatever it is, i think if you start feeling unhappy and unable to cheer up for a few days, it is very important to speak it out and share with people you trust. don't keep bottling up, until it gets really serious.. your family and friends could help you out before things worsen.

[jacgurl]

hi cotters, does anybody here heard of alpha stim. it's a US electronic gadget that's supposed to do smth to your brainwaves or smth lyk that n it helps to combat insomnia, depression and all those related stuff. but it is not available here and it can cost up to USD 800 to get one.
My dad is like asking me to try to get it from the US. but i dun wanna take the chance. I duno how credible is it n it costs so much. I dun even *** how to get it shipped to Singapore, and my family is not that rich to use over 1k to experiment a new gadget. I duno how to convince my dad not to buy it...
pls gimme so advice!!!

[yooo]

hi cotters, does anybody here heard of alpha stim. it's a US electronic gadget that's supposed to do smth to your brainwaves or smth lyk that n it helps to combat insomnia, depression and all those related stuff. but it is not available here and it can cost up to USD 800 to get one.
My dad is like asking me to try to get it from the US. but i dun wanna take the chance. I duno how credible is it n it costs so much. I dun even *** how to get it shipped to Singapore, and my family is not that rich to use over 1k to experiment a new gadget. I duno how to convince my dad not to buy it...
pls gimme so advice!!!

hmmm why does your dad need this device? is he struggling somehow? the best way to cure depression is to have people to spend time, showered with tons of encouragement.

Whatever the problem is, he has to see things from a new perspective.

Our greatest struggle is to convince OURSELVES to be positive.

the greatest problem, often lies in our mind, & not the problem itself. hope to help:D

[jacgurl]

yes he had depression before but i'm not sure if he's fully recovered from it. It is very hard to convince him. he is always thinkin he is right and all that and my mom *** asks me to do wad he wants me to do.
i sure think he needs to see things from a new perspective cos he always thinks the problems he's having now is due to some problem in his brain!!! tt is like so serious but i *** dun trust his words for that...

[reldyn]

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[yooo]

i'm getting depressed these few days and i'm not sure why too. when i look at photographs i take with my girlpals, i feel that i'm the ugliest among them all. i think i'm gaining weight and sometimes when it rains, i'm just too lazy to get myself to the gym, so i rot at home and i feel so useless and so lousy. i don't have an SO, and although guys ask me out thru friendster and facebook and i don't want to meet them because i don't think they would want to meet me a second time after the first. my friends are all getting thinner because they watch what they eat and go gym regularly. and i think i am going to be the fattest soon. i don't have much to do with myself. some days i think i am going crazy. and i don't want to sleep at night because it's like letting go of the day, which i've wasted. so i stay up and do stupid things like drink and surf the net till there is nothing more to surf.

hey there,

i do hope you're feeling much better after voicing it out yeh? i don't know what you are going through but i'm sure its not as bad as you described it to be.

what makes you think you're the ugliest? rmb, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. in my opinion, the authentic beauty is inner beauty, which is your character, i'm sure you have a pleasant disposition considering many guys ask you out..

how about talking it out to your loved ones or family members? talk to someone you love, trust and is honest with his views and is able to understand your predicament.

for now, i do hope you can change your thinking and mindset. rmb you're not ugly whatsoever. love yourself, appreciate the people around you.

your circumstances change only when your thinking changes.

renew your mind daily, try to see things from different perspective.
eg, if you feel that you're putting on weight, tell yourself to eat less oily and fried stuff. assure yourself, its aLL RIGHT, with determination, & of course, over time, i'm sure you can see results.

nevertheless, action speaks louder than words. it can be tough to cut down on your food intake overnight. step by step, i'm sure you can do it!

jiayou! when there's a will, there's a way! :D

[cutiepie]

what are the sympton for depression?? these day i lost appetite, and feel weird on my body.. i wonder why? i have stable job, love one.... and i have friends to talk to.. i wonder what is the cause of these?

[Tyane.tt]

Depression symptons:

1. One may feel worthless
2. Thought of death
3.Getting irritated for no reaons or over a small matter
4. Short term memory
5. Fatigue
6.Cry for no reasons
7.No interested in anything or any of your favourite hobbies
8.Insomnia

[diamante]

i feel suicidal when i find that my problems have no hope and when i feel helpless.
but i also find it very hard to gather the courage to kill myself whenever i find a high building wall to sit on to try to jump.
(its like my mind really want it but maybe its my body's instinctive to defend itself)

and when i go home i will lock myself up and cry for hours untill i become so numb, i cry because i dont know what to do.

and i find it very difficult to sleep at night or wake up in the day resulting that i spend alot of time in bed.
although i have alot of things i like to do like scuba diving, yoga, golf, dancing, learning new things, i find it very difficult to get out of bed to start all these.
that anything i do, its not worth simply because eventually im going to kill myself.
i dont feel like talking to anyone anymore because i think nobody can really help me.
but i dont know how to live on like being like that everyday.

i know ive been feeling worthless and hurt for many years but it seemed to get more unbearable and worse with time. like a big snowball.

my family members have no idea about this, they dont know that i cry alot and feel this way but they know i keep lying down and i sleep very late and i dont much things.

[Jean Chua]

Just last saturday, a 36 year old lady jumped from 18th floors opposite my block. Heard she was depressed for 2 weeks. So sad, she left behind 3 school going age kids