An annulment which turned ugly

[LittleTwinStars]

Scenario:

Couple went for annulment after 2 years marriage. Things just didn’t work out. They have a house together. Guy intends to buy house over from Girl. Girl asks to be compensated for her share of renovation & furniture since they bought them together. Couple has around $8k in their joint account, money came from angpaos from their wedding. Guy say he should take all since most of the angpao monies came from his father’s side friends and relatives. Guy withdrew $5k from account without Girl agreement. Girl has no choice but to take the balance. Girl paid for the annulment lawyer fees. Guy also took all the gold back from Girl given to her during the wedding. Other than that Guy took back all the jewellery he gave the Girl during the relationship.

Now the question is how much is enough to compensate the Girl for the money she put into the house?

[Sweet Secrets]

as far as i know, it's suppose to split half equally between guy and girl. Plus, the guy has to also pay out to the girl.

I don't understand why the guy can take so much jewellery and money from the girl?

[Dada_Love]

wow, sorry but that guy really very very very * kiam* how can he take back all the jewels GIVEN to her? she can fight for them, ( if she decides to engage lawyer) , how it is with annul.? both parties just agree to whatever each other can come up with? the Girl is losing big time isnt it? i dont know. now the house issue, this guy is going to eat her up also.

So she better do something about it. some of my gfs got 50%, they all get laywers to fight for larger sum of $$$, even for myself, even got the cockroach to pay for my legal fees etc etc.

When the MAN you marry turned out against you, i will take back what i deserved, plus i invested a lot in this r/s too what. When things turn ugly, it IS ugly. So i feel the girl should take back as much $$$$ as possible. Dont let the guy off so easily, because he wasnt nice to even care for her after they agree to annul their marriage.

[kristal]

Was it a mutual annulment? The guy sounds like a sore loser, not willing to let go. Maybe the only way he thinks he can get back at the ex wife is through money??

[LittleTwinStars]

The Girl asks for at least $10k compensation. The Guy argues its too much, and actually said he paid for the monthly utilities. That it was the Girl who wanted out in this relationship, he already gave her the freedom she wanted.

Well the Guy thinks that since he paid for those jewellery they are rightfully his. He also thinks that those gold are from his relatives they rightfully belongs to him also. He thinks that since she was the one who left him she actually should pay for it.

[Mrs Vainpot]

Agree with Dada_love. The girl is losing out and she should not allow herself to be bullied. What kind of man is that? Took away all the jewellery that was GIVEN to the girl and withdrew the money WITHOUT her permission? This is not called a man, it is a WORM. Disgusted!

[SSShortcake]

I'm glad she left him.

I'm disgusted by the fact that he's asking the jewellery he gave to the girl. Since you've already given it to someone else, isn't the gift the girl's already?

[dollieprincess]

its sad that a couple that was once deeply in love have to be ended this way. sigh

[hibernate]

im disgusted by the guy's actions. if its a gift, its a gift. why take back? so "salty"

[Misspiggy]

Hmmm... as outsiders we are not sure of the whole story, cannot jump into the conclusion that the guy is bad and the gal is not. It needs both hands to clap.

The gal can always seek some lawyer's advise as to what kind of legal action she can take for now. Think is July issue of either Her World or Female can't really recall, there is a section where there are some of these questions being answered by certain lawyer, maybe can take a look too.

But annulment or divorce is gonna be costly, energy and emotional zapping esp. things turns ugly. If it is not too late, try to go for counselling together, maybe that will help to ease the situation.

[Sweet Secrets]

i think the girl needs to seek legal advice if she wants to get back her share of money.

[bluerainbow]

Is it the gal who initiate the annulment?

[faerie63]

i am appalled by the guy's disgusting behavior.. then again like someone said, there's always more than one side to it. still.. he seems like such a !@#$%^

[koyume]

we dont know what's the girl's reason for leaving him. if she had done him wrong or something, it won't be hard to understand why the guy is doing such childish stuff.

[Girlosophy]

I had a friend who divorced her hubby after 2 years of marriage also, she initiated it. They bought a HDB flat. He insisted that she move out, while he continued living in it and he made HER pay for the flat installment. His reasoning was because she initiated the divorce. A$$

My friend worked 2 jobs to pay the upkeep of the house. But in the end, things turned out well for her as she is now seeing a guy who owns a pub and treats her well