An annulment which turned ugly

[fornight]

I had a friend who divorced her hubby after 2 years of marriage also, she initiated it. They bought a HDB flat. He insisted that she move out, while he continued living in it and he made HER pay for the flat installment. His reasoning was because she initiated the divorce. A$$

Yew.....what kind of loser is that???

[Sweet Secrets]

huh the guy insisted that she moved out? what a loser....

[dkny]

it's really sad when a gal meets such a guy...by the way...i thought annulment can only happen within 1 year of marriage? after 2 years can still annul?

[VinLongo]

she has the rights to take the gold jewellery because its a gift to her. there is no tied obligations etc that she must carried out at that pt of time. its her rights to keep it.

as for the house, no, she shouldnt let the guy 'buy' over it. she should get the property price revaluated, then sell it out. So she can get the whole amount of it into her bank/CPF whatever it is. under sg law, she is entitled to 50% of the assets of the guy. However, i think in this case, it must means that the wife didnt do an ything wrong etc to get the shares? ie the wife is not having affair etc

[VinLongo]

Oh ya, on the other hand, if the guy married the girl and the fickle minded woman decided to divorce etc after 1-2yrs and wants his $$$ and assets, isnt this unfair to him? out of a sudden, he not only lose the woman but also hard earned $. In this case, then I feel that its unfair for the guy. Suddenly the whole house loan has become his burden. Its not easy too.

[little whiner]

Since the guy is intending to buy over flat, get the female to do a re-evaluation of the apartment, including the furnishings.

Say they paid 250k for the flat, he is to pay her half of that amount.

And after re-evaluation, if the property appreciates by a good 10k, he should pay her that 10k.

It's fair. He doesn't have the right to argue with her over this.

Given his unreasonable ways, she should seek legal help.

[Sweet Secrets]

yeah that's what i thought, the guy needs to pay her half the amount of the flat.

[dawn73]

Agree with Vinlogo, if you give a gitf to a person, you cannot take it back and say it is rightfully yours. Whether to give it back should depend on the girl. Ifshe feels bad for wanting to end the marriage (no wonder since the guy is such an *** ) then she can give it back to him so he doesn't have any more excuses to harrass her. I am not a lawyer, but legally, the guy doesn't have the rights to the gifts.

I think sometimes girls are too softhearted and don't stand up for their rights and let underserving people take advantage of them. Any way, the guys's arguement sounds like rubbish, even if he pays for the monthly utility, that is just $100 per month, 24 months only 2400, split between 2 people is only $1200. How much did the gir put into the house? When face with this kind of man, really have to get all the facts and figures ready.

The girl should be tough on the guy, make sure he pay good money for the house (not just valuation since many people are willing to pay beyond valuation for good location and renovation) or insist that the house be sold and money be split accordingly.

[minuet]

I think it is really sad when a person you loved, or still love, does this to you.

[Dada_Love]

What VINlingo mentioned is true also, If The problem actually lies with the girl, Like: Have scandals outside, or feel the husband not rich enough, etc etc, that depends on how the Girl file the reason . or rather the couple file, Usually if its the girl who wanna divorce , due to husband adultry, unable to reconcile or domestic violence, Advantage will be with the Girl,

But if the main reason is the Girl's wrong, then erm......... she may be left with little to take.

Its true law always protect woman but woman cannot be too much either.

Since we dont know whats the cause of the divorce, maybe they just got to engage legal personal to solve the $$ issue.

P:S: But if the guy's a jerk, by all means sue till his mistress also have to help pay for all the compensation! we can help intro lawyers too !~

[dietcoke]

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[xian10]

Scenario:

Couple went for annulment after 2 years marriage. Things just didn�t work out. They have a house together. Guy intends to buy house over from Girl. Girl asks to be compensated for her share of renovation & furniture since they bought them together. Couple has around $8k in their joint account, money came from angpaos from their wedding. Guy say he should take all since most of the angpao monies came from his father�s side friends and relatives. Guy withdrew $5k from account without Girl agreement. Girl has no choice but to take the balance. Girl paid for the annulment lawyer fees. Guy also took all the gold back from Girl given to her during the wedding. Other than that Guy took back all the jewellery he gave the Girl during the relationship.

Now the question is how much is enough to compensate the Girl for the money she put into the house?

Similar case with TS, ROMed within 1 mth itself had a big quarrel, went for counselling but useless...both guy and girl agreed to annul but guy keep asking the $$ for flat, ROMed + photoshoot, jewellry, keep asking $$ altho he still have alot of saving. Ask the girl to find lawyer n he ignore .... girl finally found lawyer to settle the annulment and pay by herself. However, guy changed his mind and trying to win back girl's heart...even transfer lump some of $$ to girl's acc, girl wanted to transfer back but doesnt have guy's acc so she asked for it....he said $$ is not important if he can't have her.
lawyer become puzzled in the midst of preparing to file yet unable to contact this guy, as this guy ignore and refuse to let go girl.
The case getting complicated as guy refuse to sign and girl afraid he may contest in the court. Girl's lawyer has no idea of what this guy wants and things are complicated as involved flat as well.
Girl is in the depress situation....was tortured when together..and want to leave him also hard and have to bear all the cost and mentally and emotionally suffering while the guy seems lead his life normal..can go work n hav fun...

what else can the girl do? change lawyer? she is going to lose her income as well as she cant focus on work bcause of this incident. Physically and mentally exhausted.
how to return his $$ and stuff...girl doesnt want to keep as well...such an unfortunate things.

Lawyer even said...if he contest...the case may need to redo again and have to file as divorce which is 4 yrs....its kinda unfair where guy n girl nv consummate the marriage as the guy refuse to stay tgt and doesnt want to hv kid since 1st day and refuse to have customary even the girl's fam offered to pay.
but now the guy turned 360 deg n said wan to hav customary, have kids, stay tgt BUT he still need his freedom and space.
Girl isnt convince and had been firm with her decision to leave him be it annul or divorce...but of course girl is very suffering now ...wonder how to cope until this case settle.
why such guy is exist????????

[meisme]

hate this kind of guy. if he loves her, just let her go.