Lunch alone or simply don't have colleagues of the same waveline?

[swerves018]

my bf is now working with a lot of girls.
and he complains that he'd rather lunch alone cos he cannot seem to communicate with them. even though they will include him in their conversations and try to get him to join them for lunch. he's like so bored all the time.

i used to experience this when i was working part-time last time too. but i enjoy being alone. can shop freely and don't have to worry about others (whether they like this shop or not) and don't have to wait for so-and-so to pay their bills or whatever. can skip lunching and go walk walk if i want to. very comfortable. lol.

but of course being alone also got its downside.. always cannot find place to eat cos nobody to 'chop' seats for you.

[namida]

my bf is now working with a lot of girls.
and he complains that he'd rather lunch alone cos he cannot seem to communicate with them. even though they will include him in their conversations and try to get him to join them for lunch. he's like so bored all the time.

i used to experience this when i was working part-time last time too. but i enjoy being alone. can shop freely and don't have to worry about others (whether they like this shop or not) and don't have to wait for so-and-so to pay their bills or whatever. can skip lunching and go walk walk if i want to. very comfortable. lol.

but of course being alone also got its downside.. always cannot find place to eat cos nobody to 'chop' seats for you.

same sentiments

[tamarind]

I always lunch alone. I simply don't like to go out with big groups. I don't feel there is anything wrong with it. I have been doing it for 8 years already.

[PiscesGalGal]

Actually it depends on the trend of the company.. if all eat alone or with their friends, at least you don't feel weird being alone too... The worst thing is when everyone clicks so well and yet you just can't and people will start thinking you are the PROBLEM!!!

Unless you can really close your eyes and ears to all those stupid nonsense things that they say.... if not............ the A4 size paper (not an encouragement please but something which i feel like doing when met with this situation )

[HAPPY CHERRY]

Pieces Girl: Wow...I never *** of it *** way. Luckily almost everyone here lunch alone. But if I really cannot click with colleagues (Say they all lunch tog), can be embarrasing ***.

Shan: U not anti-social ***. Just that sometimes the situation can be tuff to lunch with people of your same dept. Maybe to maintain good contact with your team, make small talk with them ? (to substitute the lunch?).

I really feel comforted by all your replies. Just *** its really very heart pain, to see people lunching in groups. Of late , while eating alone I will observe them closely, and sometimes noticed that they dun talk much too

But dun worrie, I will now try to concentrate on other tots.....and do more yoga? hehe (sun saluations)

I am trying very hard these days to look happy = so that will become happy. (see my nick) . Lucky I found this forum manz!

[girlgirl]

wow notice so many people lunch alone

actually me also lunch time alone, not becos i cannot get along with them, i get along with them very well only my lunch time abit different from them, i need to take over recept area so sometime i lunch 1 and sometime i lunch 12. but they are fixed at 12.00 and office staff hardly go lunch at 1.00 unless they got lunch appointment. They like very hungry

must at 12 ke ke

anyway i am vry used to eat alone, can eat what i want and shop what i want, but sometime i also lunch with my cousin or sister worked around the same area as me so still not so bad

but which area you all work in? CBD or industrial area?

[PiscesGalGal]

Eating alone definitely not a problem and can be fun many a times too. Because of the stress at work and the hours facing our dear colleagues, we need break in between for our own

Just pray hard no xiaoren around... and maybe thanks for a time when we can train ourselves to be independent

[CaramelGirl]

hmm... i used to be in a similar dilemma when i was temping some years back. My colleagues and i just don't click. (

Maybe you guys can share your working area and organise lunch outing among yourself. Since we are in this forum, i'm sure there's something we have in common. Clothes? makeup? Cupcakes? LoL!

[boozo_bajou]

I lunch alone too. Been in the company for about 3 weeks.
The people there ain't friendly and won't initiate talks.
Feel so left out when I went for dept lunching.
Ended up shopping alone during lunch. Gees

[Donna Bella]

I eat by myself too. My colleague prefer to buy back to eat.. Anyway, eating alone is much easier, really. I don't even need to 'reserve' seats cos I can easily slot into any empty seats without having to wait for multiple ones. And side-track a bit, I think the tissue reserve system is silly - in 5-10 mins when a seat is reserved a seat, some people, especially men, could have finished a meal.. oh well...

[whitequeeniie]

my attachment starts on 5th march. i hope i found someone who can eat lunch with everyday. i hate being alone! ):

[kimberchin]

I like to be alone too.

Any suggestions on how to turn down lunch invites without appearing anti-social or a 'weirdo'?
And usually, the office or dept people will gossip right? Wont it be so awkward?

[pinkdewy]

You can do in a way maybe out of 5 invitations, accept 2-3 and let your colleagues know sometimes you prefer to have your own time.

[diamondfericia]

Am thankful that everytime i worked, i have alot of friends to go lunch with... I wouldn't like to go lunch alone, if really no choice, i just ask someone to tabao back for me...

[plasterger]

i don't like to eat alone...but sometimes, i prefer to have some time alone and let my mind rest...especially when i am upset with work and need to clear my mind.....
cos eating with colleagues, often the talk is about work again...and during lunch time, you just feel like breaking away from work, isn't it ?